I’ve noticed over the years that entrepreneurs are incredibly hard on themselves. So, today, I want to talk to you about the importance of language. I’m talking about the kind of language we say to ourselves about ourselves.
I’m sure you know what I’m talking about because we all do it. Offhand comments such as “I’m such a …[insert negative label here]” and “I never get it right.” We call ourselves names and don’t think a thing about it. Psychologists call this negative self-talk. A lot of this talk can be internal negative thoughts we have as well as stuff we say out loud.
Negative thoughts are the equivalent of us throwing dirt and muck on our own facets. Originally, the dirt and muck may have been thrown by others, but through the years we have learned to sling it just as hard (don’t know what I’m talking about? Click here to get the scoop).
It’s time to stop.
Words are very powerful. You know this. You know this if you’ve ever had someone hurt your feelings with just the words he or she said. The words you say to yourself can be just as hurtful. And very limiting.
The first step is awareness. Often, our negative thoughts and self-talk come and go and we’re not consciously aware of them. I have an exercise this week, that if you’re up for it, will help you start to remove these negative thoughts from your vocabulary. You’ll most likely be very surprised at how much of it there is.
Are you up for it?
Get a blank piece of paper out and create four columns. They should look like this:
Take the piece of paper with you throughout the week and write down any negative thoughts you catch.
Don’t judge, just observe.
This is important. You don’t want to create more negative thoughts while you’re trying to become aware of your negative thoughts. You also want to describe what was going on before you had the thought. What was the preceding event?
- Were you alone?
- Did you make a mistake?
- Were you with other people?
- Did you embarrass yourself?
- Were you intimidated by someone?
- Did you feel inferior in some way?
Just jot down a short phrase that will help you remember what led to the negative thought.
Keep this paper handy because next week we’ll be using it to start shifting your thinking.
With love & joy,
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